Crush at First Glance?
Okay readers and fellow bloggers, what do we make of love at first sight? I’ll go first! Love exists on many levels, and can mean many different things. When I say that I am in love with my girlfriend, I mean something far different than when I say I love waffles, which in turn is different than the love I may profess for a close friend or relative.
When judged by the “in love with you” standard, the concept of love at first sight seems absurd. The former, the in love love as it were, is the culmination of a long process of getting to know all about another person while at the same time sharing with them your innermost workings. In other words, it’s all hella deep and stuff. Meanwhile, love at first sight is a different flavor of animal; it’s the hazelnut giraffe of the love world, if you follow my meaning. It is the perfect stranger, perhaps only seen for a few moments, but remembered years later– maybe even someone never spoken to or even met, but someone with such beauty and/ or grace that they remain a part of your heart’s history.
I’m kind of blogging out of my ass right now, because I honestly have never yet encountered a hazelnut giraffe, whatever the hell that means. Today’s Question: Have you?
(I began this blog with the intent of saying something along the lines of “love at first sight is kind of like having a crush on someone on account of they are pretty, and then you try to get to know them better,” but the hazelnut giraffe part sounded to good to delete. Plus it is almost 5:00 am.)
sorry can’t say that i have. but this here is a different subject. have you ever dreamt of someone that you never even really met, but wondered if that person really exists in real life? i was thinking that maybe with your subconscience you see someone walking along the street that looks like that person you dreamt of. i dunno its just a thought. hehe
Even if you do sound random and sleep-deprived, I think you nailed it. There is in love love, and then there is the love you feel when you see someone you find attractive. Like the start of a crush.
Nah….unless they do something unusual…like puke or have five inch horns growing out of his head…I dunno. Wat about u?
There was this boy in high school who I hardly talk to even we were in the same math class. At the end of my freshman year at Cal he came visit my roomie and I (we were all from the same high school), when i see him again, we all have grown, he was tall and handsome, I totally fell in love on first sight. Couple months later, he was my date on my 19th birthday, we saw a movie “Gone in 60 seconds,” and we walked around in the mall, stopped at a stuffed animal store, the granny at the store teased us, she said, “say with one you like now, so he can come back later to get it, it will be a surprise.” We both were so shy, we smiled and walked away.
But he decided to pursue his studies at MIT, at the end of the summer we were seperated. *pout*
That was my first experience of “love on first sight.”
edit: “say WHICH one you like…”
“love AT first sight.”
maybe i should have written this on my own xanga, so i wouldn’t feel embarrass that i might be taking too much room on other ppl’s comment section.
i had such a crush on the jet skier at sea world when i was eleven. he had much beauty and/or grace.
lol…yea…i saw a chick while i was on vacation. we ended up together years later. then she broke my heart. *shrug*
I generally forget people unless I speak to them, or interact with them on some level.
While “love at first sight” is cliche and an odd way of putting what I think is actually a chemical reaction in the brain, I believe your statement “Love is the culmination of a long process of getting to know all about another person.” strikes m as absurd as well. How can you ever know all about someone, as we all change each moment, our lives and personalities colored by those around us and our experiences, among other influences? Are you really saying that we can never love anyone–truly at least? That’s mighty durn sad. :( I await the separate post where you address this with rabid anticipation.
@absintheandcindr, I didn’t mean it that literally. We don’t need to know every single thing about someone, always, in order to love them. I just meant that over time we get to know the sides of their personality they don’t readily share.
@Peasprout, Thanks for the clarification. :) Carry on…
Sadly, can’t think of anyone either.
Many a passing person has stired something in me, but unless I interact with them, most I forget as soon as the next comes along.
I have “seen” people online, meaning I’ve spoken with them once or seen their picture once and never again, that made such an impact on me that months later I still think of them and search them out. It may not be love, but it is a connection….